Clearly maintaining this blog is not my strong suit, which i really need to be better at especially if i want to be apart of the cool Mormon newly-wed bloggers group. JK. But anyway's so far in our life it has been going really well (aside from my constant plague lingering over me - no joke I have been sick for a solid month and two weeks before that in March).
*pictured above are just a few pictures from when were in California and our birthday's and family time.
So Trevor and I have been doing really great lately, so I'm going to back up the train to preface why it's been good few weeks. For the last year, or our first year of marriage; we seemed to have been in this rut we didn't quite know we were in. Trevor had started at the U, I had started a new job and everything seemed to be going really well. He was starting his Mechanical Engineering degree and I was finishing up at the BC and we were a fresh set of newly wed's so it seemed to be a given that we would have our up's and down's and what not. Not to say marriage was hard but more of the situation we found ourselves in and time and time again which was school. The first semester proved to be harder than we had anticipated, we knew it would be an adjustment so we just carried on. Then the next semester no different, it was as it we were on a runway just waiting to catch speed and take off. I had revisited Trevor's choice for a career and while me being the anxiety ridden person I am, I felt so strongly that the ME program wasn't the best, but I had doubted myself and knowing that Trevor felt it was what he would do, I just felt so unsure and that we needed to revisit our plan of action. We tried our best to do what we could and just keep going and pray that it would all end well. By the third semester, I had nudged Trevor in the beginning to really think about his choice, because while we are a pair in this decision, it is his choice and I'm here to support. I also urged him to reevaluate the job situation he was in, he worked at the JSMB for three years and they offered good hours but b a month in to his semester he was working overtime and weekends which was not the original plan. So I told him with my income we were ok for him to quit and just solely focus on school and so he quit and it was great! So I gently advised him to think about the options with school. Then about half way through his buddy had mentioned that the coding class Trevor had suggested he take to see if he would enjoy the computer side of things turned out to be his favorite class, Trevor decided to look into Information Systems. Around this time my brother was looking for someone to be a data entry guy for his company he is working to build up. I told Trevor it would be perfect because it was minimal hours and pretty mundane work which is probably the ideal work for a full-time student.
Now during this time I was on my death bed and we were sleeping in our living room (hah). He had been up all night thinking about this and researching and by 6 am, me seeing that at 12 am and 3 am that Trevor was glued to his phone, I turn over to see him wide eye looking at me and saying "I'm changing my program and I know it's the right one". So as a precursor, I had applied to a new job that had literally fallen into my lap and was still at the U which allowed me to give Trevor the coveted half tuition and keep our lovely benefits. So as we were praying it would all work out. As we talked throughout the day, and I thought about it more and more, I knew that this suited Trevor and was so baffled as to how we missed all the signs that he really enjoyed computers. There it was the burden that was weighing on our shoulders had been lifted and we never knew. On my birthday, I went in for my third and final interview, which was just a get to know you and this is our company type thing, I submitted my two weeks and finally it seemed that all was right with our life. We were thrilled that Trevor was in a degree that would allow him to graduate with his Master's one semester shy of what the Mechanical Engineering would give him with a Bachelor's, it was just so much better. As I mentioned before about that job with my brother, it worked out and Trevor started on Friday and really likes it for what it is.
Looking back at the start of our marriage and where we were to now, it was a like a light had been shed but it was great learning curve for us. Trevor learned that he needs to trust me a bit more and I need to let him decide on his own, so a little give on both sides will do us good.
For the sake of my prosperity and the fact that I want to be 50 and have a shred of memory of our younger years, I vow to update this more regularly.
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